Being Impeccable with Your Word

When we’re being impeccable we’re not using our words against ourselves.
Indulging in guilt or shame.
We also don’t use our word against others.
In blaming, criticising or gossiping.
We also honour our commitments and only make commitments we tend to follow through on.
Too many of us engage in ‘nice guy behaviour!’
My spouse tell me me to do something.
My boss tells me to do something.
My children tell me to do something.
And I have no intention of honouring the commitment.
I say “ok, I’ll do it”
But I have no intention of following through.
So what we need to do is only say yes to stuff if we actually intend to honour the commitment.
In the Tibetan language there’s no word for the English word ‘guilt’.
The closest thing they have to guilt is a word that translates to:
‘Intelligent regret that decides to do things differently.’
Do you see the difference?
The difference between guilt and shame is shame is something that stops me in its tracks.
So you decide to jerk off to porn, in the moment you become mindful and you stop and put the jar of Vaseline away.
If I continue to jerk off and afterwards I feel bad about it, I feel guilt.
So using the Tibetan translation. I did what I regret so now I’m impeccable with my word and do things differently coming forward.
In Tibetan they also have no words to describe blame, criticism or complaining.
What they have is a word that roughly approximates to ‘useless talk’.
When I engage in blame…
When I engage in criticism…
When I engage in complaining…
Science shows two things happen.
1- When you engage in these activities in depletes your energy.
2- It literally rewires you in ways you don’t want to be rewired.
Your neurons branch out to each other to ease the flow of information.
This makes it much easier to repeat that behavior in the future.
Get rid of all the gossiping, complaining or criticising.
Even if you follow someone else doing it.
If the person isn’t there and I talk about them, it’s gossiping.
That itself changes your neural pathways.
Be impeccable with your word.
So on a scale between 1-10 how are you doing.
Are you using your word against yourself?
Indulging in guilt or shame?
In terms of honouring commitments?Being impeccable with your word 26/07/23
When we’re being impeccable we’re not using our words against ourselves.
Indulging in guilt or shame.
We also don’t use our word against others.
In blaming, criticising or gossiping.
We also honour our commitments and only make commitments we tend to follow through on.
Too many of us engage in ‘nice guy behaviour!’
My spouse tell me me to do something.
My boss tells me to do something.
My children tell me to do something.
And I have no intention of honouring the commitment.
I say “ok, I’ll do it”
But I have no intention of following through.
So what we need to do is only say yes to stuff if we actually intend to honour the commitment.
In the Tibetan language there’s no word for the English word ‘guilt’.
The closest thing they have to guilt is a word that translates to:
‘Intelligent regret that decides to do things differently.’
Do you see the difference?
The difference between guilt and shame is shame is something that stops me in its tracks.
So you decide to jerk off to porn, in the moment you become mindful and you stop and put the jar of Vaseline away.
If I continue to jerk off and afterwards I feel bad about it, I feel guilt.
So using the Tibetan translation. I did what I regret so now I’m impeccable with my word and do things differently coming forward.
In Tibetan they also have no words to describe blame, criticism or complaining.
What they have is a word that roughly approximates to ‘useless talk’.
When I engage in blame…
When I engage in criticism…
When I engage in complaining…
Science shows two things happen.
1- When you engage in these activities in depletes your energy.
2- It literally rewires you in ways you don’t want to be rewired.
Your neurons branch out to each other to ease the flow of information.
This makes it much easier to repeat that behavior in the future.
Get rid of all the gossiping, complaining or criticising.
Even if you follow someone else doing it.
If the person isn’t there and I talk about them, it’s gossiping.
That itself changes your neural pathways.
Be impeccable with your word.
So on a scale between 1-10 how are you doing.
Are you using your word against yourself?
Indulging in guilt or shame?
In terms of honouring commitments?